On Friday, April 7, 2023, this was a headline on internet Yahoo News:
“Angel Reese says she will go to White House with LSU despite being ‘hurt’ by Jill Biden’s comments”*
Further stated, “She’s a team player and she only wants to do what’s best for the team.” Regarding that comment, I can only surmise that Ms. Reese will suffer in anguish a trip to the White House despite her ‘hurt feelings. Here, we have a characteristic of ‘martyrdom’ entering the equation. ‘I will endure my pain and suffer just for you, my team’!
The keyword and the key phrase I want to focus on here and now is the word ‘hurt’. This is a notion deeply embedded within our society and culture, and it goes like this: It often happens that a person walks away from any of several human social transactions or interactions having a particular ‘feeling-state’. Sometimes the result of those transactions is that they walk away claiming that they were ‘hurt’, or ‘that person hurt my feelings’. Furthermore, in their perception, their hurt is based upon something the other person did ‘to them’. Further extending this deeply held belief or notion, the other person (the accused) is fully responsible for making me feel the way I did! Now, obviously in that transaction there was an exchange of some sort. For the person to walk away and claim to feel that way, that is, the feeling of being hurt or having their feelings hurt.
A Note: In one’s life experience, no one is EVER responsible for how another person feels. No one MAKES you feel in any particular way. The way you feel about anyone, anything, any circumstance is entirely your own responsibility and choice! Viewpoints and beliefs that run contrary to what I just said, specifically, that others are fully responsible for how I feel, form a cornerstone of the plethora of ‘psychological projections’ that run rampant and amok in our society and culture. Otherwise known as the ‘blame’ mentality, characterized as, “The woes of myself and humanity are never my fault, it’s always someone else’s fault!”
Here’s my declaration to you. In the human emotional experience, there is no such natural emotion as ‘feeling hurt’. There is no such thing! In my writings and in my book I’m very clear and concise about the range of emotions that a human being can experience. And I assure you there is no such basis or natural inborn emotion as ‘feeling hurt’. I’m not denying that something is going on within the psyche of that person, there is. They are simply describing an inner state or condition they are experiencing. That’s it!
I’ll explain the dynamics that go on in this situation. Very likely the person experiencing the ‘hurt feelings’ is incapable of expressing the emotion of natural anger. And there are reasons for that. Oftentimes, these dynamics are grounded in what I call a person’s basic attitudes. Generally, these basic attitudes are formed in the first seven years of life. A person learns very specific dynamics about the emotion of anger. Often, a person is incapable of expressing natural proportional anger, and in this case it would simply be proportional pushback. A person may have the belief that the expression of anger is ‘negative’ and will refrain from expressing anger.
Furthermore, this opens another dynamic: There is a ‘victim’ in these circumstances and transactions. Guess who it is. It’s Ms. Reese. Now she has elevated herself to the moral high-ground because she has been wronged! Now, Ms. Reese has been granted and authorized (by herself) the moral authority to hold a grudge; the moral authority to ‘keep accounts’ and then exact ‘punishment’ as she sees fit. Shame on you, Dr. Jill Biden, look what you have done to her (sarcasm here)! Ms. Reese’s internal dialogue may consist of the following, ‘look at me how I have suffered’. ‘Look at me how I have been wronged’. ‘My sacrosanct feelings have been hurt’. And now, not only will I agree that we will go to the White House, but I will make this decision in sufferance of my whole team’. ‘Look what I’m doing for you’! And then… there’s even more! The ‘victim’ may demand an apology! In this case from Jill Biden.
Do you think our former President Donald J. Trump would ever walk away from a situation—let’s look at those hour-and-a-half-long press conferences that our former president used to engage in. Do you think Donald J. Trump would ever walk away from one of those press conferences and then start complaining to the press or anyone that, Oh!, I feel so hurt? Oh, they hurt my feelings? Are you kidding me? Hell no. That would never happen. And you know why it never happened? Because Donald J Trump was a master at pushing back against these socialist progressives and bozos of the fake media. Donald J. Trump was a master at expressing anger in proportion to the circumstance.
Do you get this, folks? Do you understand this? If you don’t, you’re missing something very key in human behavior. Furthermore, Mr. Trump did not hold a grudge. Why? Because he always got his anger out. Some may disagree with this but contrast the action of holding a grudge, which carries with it exacting revenge. And revenge always carries with it the desire and willful intent to hurt, maim, or kill. This is in violation of ethical and moral law. Trump fired someone for good reason and expelled them from the organization.
Contrast that with what you see in these repressed, angry, hateful Liberal Democrats that you see daily. The scowling faces. The venomous hatred that they have against you, the citizen. And so many other people. You’ve got to get this, folks. You need to understand it. And how can it be applied to your own life? You need to learn how to engage your anger properly. You need to learn how to push back in proportion to the circumstance. Don’t be a wuss. If you push back in proportion to the circumstance—there will be no residual after effect. My esteemed mentor and my teacher once said to me, the best thing you can do in life is to make anger your friend and ally, and what he meant by that is that anger has to be used in proportion to the circumstance. And the keyword there is proportion. Make anger your friend. Anger expressed in proportion is always positive behavior. Repressed and blocked congealed anger that transforms into hatred is the foundation of negativity and negative behavior, and then manifests to hurt and and harm.
And let me give you a contrary circumstance to those of Trump. Remember those news clips of Maxine Waters. Remember when she was riling up this crowd, encouraging them to be angry and to get in their face! Hurt them! Remember that? “If you see anybody from that Cabinet in a restaurant, in a department store, at a gasoline station, you get out and you create a crowd and you push back on them! And you tell them that they are not welcome, anymore, anywhere,” Waters said.* This, folks, was not anger in proportion. She was expelling from a pool of repressed hatred and anger with the intent to hurt and destroy. That’s what she was expelling. That’s what you normally see coming out of these people. We see this often from the media, in the House or Senate chambers or wherever it might be. These are violations of human and moral behavior.
JDM
https://www.yahoo.com/sports/angel-reese-says-she-will-go-to-white-house-with-lsu-despite-being-hurt-by-jill-bidens-comments-133315698.html
*(credit to) Liz Roscher — Fri, April 7, 2023 at 6:33 AM PDT
https://www.wsj.com/articles/maxine-waterss-long-history-of-reckless-rhetoric-1161921395
Disclaimer: Let it be known that in no manner am I a proponent nor an opponent of either Ms. Reese or, Jill Biden. My goal is to present psychological and behavioral truths and facts as I see them.
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